Monday is here again. Another beginning to another week. I hope everyone had a great weekend! I know mine was full of rest and relaxation to help my back continue to heal. It is much, much better than it was a week ago, but still no where near 100%. This is just going to force me to take it easy for another week to let my back recoup. I'm hoping to get into a chiropractor today for an adjustment too. I know some people are not fans of chiros, but I know my back and hip situation and I'm confident than an adjustment will help the recovery process for my back and keep me from re-injuring.
So during my process of recovery from this injury I came across some interesting information.
Or rather "comments from the peanut gallery". So when I saw this below, I knew I had to talk about it today for Momentum Monday.
It's unfortunate that the people who know the least about you have the most to say, as if they knew you inside and out and know what is best for you. These types of people, while their intentions are good in nature, make comments that spread like MRSA. It infects you and affects you, creates doubt where there was none and makes you question your abilities when you shouldn't.
This type of "feedback" from these sources are given with the intent to help raise your awareness to issues and what you should and shouldn't be doing. Yet they don't know what you do, or how you do it, what works for you and what doesn't. They give this feedback and yet they aren't you. Don't you think that the only one who should be giving you feedback is, well, you?
Now don't get advice and feedback mixed up. You can certainly get advice from people who may have more years of training than you, or may have experienced a similar situation you are in and want some guidance. Feedback is usually unsolicited "advice" from people that think they know how to deal with a situation and know how to take care of you better than you do.
This type of feedback is toxic and tough to deal with at times because it can come from close sources to you and really shake your confidence. As tough as it may be, you have to not listen and believe in yourself. I've had several people give feedback on my running and why it's not a good idea or questioning my motives for doing it, or even questioning my ability to do it period. It wasn't and still isn't easy to hear or deal with, but here are a couple of things that help me:
Kill them with kindness: Don't let them know their feedback/comments affect you. Smile and thank them for their "advice", then quickly forget what they say. Easier said than done, I know, but holding onto what they say creates doubt; never doubt yourself!
Believe in yourself: You need to make affirmations to yourself about why you are doing what you do and that you believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. I'm not talking about Stuart Smiley affirmations, I'm just saying that your success is based on your belief that you can do it. If you believe you can, you will; if you believe you can't, you won't.
People will question what you do and the reason why you do it. There doesn't necessarily need to be a reason and most times the only person you need to justify it to is yourself. Believe that you can accomplish your goals and don't let the "peanut gallery" get you down.
Question for you: How do you handle situation where the "peanut gallery" gives you unsolicited advice? How do you handle their feedback?